Increasingly, we are hearing more and more women speak out about abuse and violence that have happened to them at the hands of their childbirth care provider. The video of a woman having a forced episiotomy reached far beyond the usual ‘birth junkie’ circles. Another woman’s experience of being physically wrestled onto her back causing long-term pelvic injury made the local papers. These voices have become loud enough that the term ‘obstetric violence’ has entered our vocabulary.
What Does Obstetric Violence Look Like?
Obstetric violence or abuse can take on many aspects, but the core element is a blatant disrespect for, and abusive treatment of, a woman during labor, birth and/or postpartum. Looking at the general categories of abusive tactics (as articulated by domestic & relationship abuse prevention) we have- Emotional Abuse, Verbal Abuse, Physical Abuse, Economic Abuse & Sexual Abuse. Here’s how those manifest in an childbirth setting:
Emotional abuse manifests as bullying and using scare tactics towards the mother- often with the implication that, being pregnant, she is not entirely mentally competent to make decisions, and cares more about herself than for the baby. Phrases like “I’m the doctor here, where did you get your medical degree?”, “I won’t be held responsible if something happens.”, “If your baby dies, it’ll upset the staff.” “You must not want a healthy baby.” These fear based proclamations and undermining of the mother’s wants & needs are common enough that labor support people often call it playing the dead baby card.
Verbal abuse is found in demeaning, aggressive language towards the mother, often targeting her choices, actions and behavior during labor. “Stop yelling, you’ll upset the other moms.”, “Just get the epidural, stop trying to be a hero.” “Quit making those noises, you sound stupid.” “You’re embarrassing”. “Just do what the doctor tells you, why do you have to be so difficult?” “If you don’t hurry it up, we’re going to have to do a cesarean”. “You can’t be pregnant forever, so schedule your induction.”
Note that this language is not at all limited to the care providers, other people present at the birth may use demeaning language, especially when confronted with a laboring woman that does not meet their expected standards of behavior.
We find physical abuse when women are:
Economic abuse exists through the systemic limitations of the US healthcare system. Women are regularly constrained in their choice of care provider and birth location to that which is approved by her insurance company. Even if she desires a different provider, or a different location, those options are denied to her unless she has the financial resources to pay out of pocket. If a woman finds herself actively in conflict with, or uncomfortable with her care provider, changing to another may be economically difficult.
Comprehensive childbirth education and trained labor support (doulas) are likewise considered luxuries (instead of the money saving, outcome improving tools they are), and are primarily accessible only to those families in economically advantaged populations with financial resources.
Discussing obstetric sexual abuse or ‘birth rape’ is often where people are the most uncomfortable. The idea that a woman’s body can be sexually violated while giving birth does not fit what most people think of as ‘rape’. However, childbirth is absolutely a sexual act that involves all of a woman’s primary sexual organs & hormones. Violation of those areas during birth will have a profound impact on a woman’s sexuality postpartum and beyond, especially if the woman (like so many) has been the victim of sexual assault previously.
Examples of sexually violating behavior can include:
Responding To Obstetric Violence
Although it is not a new phenomenon, the increased voices means that the reality that obstetric violence happens, and that women legitimately can experience PTSD symptoms postpartum (and beyond) because of their birth experiences is coming out of the hush-hush shadows where “You have a healthy baby!” was a valid reason to ignore what had happened to the mother. Sadly, this has not meant (yet!) that providers are ebing held legally accountable. The woman with the pelvic injury is in litigation with the hospital, but the woman who’s assault was caught on video is representing herself in court, after being told by hundreds of lawyers she didn’t have a case- “The problem is, you don’t have any damages. Your baby is fine and you are alive.”
It is important to acknowledge that the vast majority of providers, from OBGYNs, to Family Practitioners, to Midwives of all types, are thoughtful, respectful people who have a positive intention of supporting & serving women during birth. We must not, in pursuing a culture of openness and raw honesty about obstetric violence paint anyone, or any profession with broad brushes- even while we acknowledge the systemic issues of training, environment and mindset that can lead to condoning obstetric violence. AKA, it isn’t just “those” providers, or “that” location where obstetric violence happens.
But, unlike domestic abuse, there’s no roadmap for helping women recognize when abuse is happening to them, or how to know that they are ‘at risk’ for obstetric violence. Because the abuse often happens in a contained time period of a few hours, even the women who are abused may brush off their experience as unimportant, or even tell themselves it didn’t really happen that way, that she’s misremembering.
A study in 2005 found that oxytocin, the hormone in full swing during labor, increases trust levels in humans. A laboring woman flooded with oxytocin is vunerable in a way she never is anywhere else, and she may belive that what’s being done to her is correct, or in her best interests, or not abusive, because she is chemically encouraged to be trusting. Once that oxytocin glow wears off, she may feel confused and even betrayed by herself and her response to what was happening. It is vitally important that we give women a way to tell the deep, heart-true stories of their birth, not just the social contract birth story she’ll tell family and playgroup moms, but the core essence of her birth story, and have it be truly listened to. Birthing From Within offers this through their Birth Story Listening– but that’s a whole blog entry of its own!
For Labor Day 2014, the consumer group Improving Birth created the hashtag #breakthesilence, that made a safe space for people to begin speaking out about their experiences, things they’ve witnessed, how they’ve stepped up to being working against obstetric violence. I have no doubt it’ll happen again for 2015, 2016 and further, until the cycle of obstetric violence, and societal acceptance of such as a ‘normal’ part of birth, ends.
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